Fears & Phobias

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Fears & Phobias

Suffer from a phobia or fears? We can help.

fears-phobias

Are you experiencing one of the following symptoms?

  • Panic attacks
  • Fight or Flight symptoms
  • Finding yourself not wanting to do something despite others enjoying or benefiting from doing so
  • Sabotaging opportunites
  • Worrying too much about things

There are many different causes for a subconsciously held fear or phobia

any of us have fears about particular objects or situations, and this is perfectly normal. A fear becomes a phobia if it lasts for more than six months, and has a significant impact on how you live your day-to-day life.

 

Top Tips to fight fears and panic

  1. 7/11 breathing 
  2. Practice stress reduction techniques, such as mindfulness meditation or aerobic exercise.
  3. Get into a good position. Take a deep breath and sigh it out, get in touch with your breathing. Close your eyes and find the place in your body where you feel your breath most prominently. Detach from your thoughts
  4. Book some sessions with an experienced therapist.

How we can help you

If you are suffering from a phobia or fear that is ruining your life, preventing you  from enjoying your life to its fullest give us a call and find out how we can help you to regain control of your emotions and free yourself of life restricting phobias.  

Phobias can be so powerful, they can create some very scary emotions, thoughts and feelings. The mind and body connection is so strong that your mind will create unpleasant physical feelings such as sweaty palms, breathlessness, stomach pains, nausea and feeling faint.

You don’t have to live with dread; you can live your life as you were meant to without these fears you weren’t born with them, you have acquired them through time and therapy can easily help you be rid of them.  We use a range of techniques when treating phobias and  usually combine two or more techniques to attain maximum success, leaving you permanently free of your phobia.

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Addictions

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Addictions

Addictive behaviour? This can help.

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Are you experiencing one of the following symptoms?

  • A behaviour that causes pain for you and your loved ones
  • Cravings
  • Continued behavior despite adverse consequences
  • Loss of or little control
  • Denial or minimizing the problems

There could be different causes for an addiction

Addiction is defined as not having control over doing, taking or using something to the point where it could be harmful to you. This could be computer games, sex, drugs, alcohol, self harming, smoking,  gambling, food…the list could go on.

Addiction causes a lot of suffering. Not only for the person who is addicted but the people they share their lives with also. This suffering can take many
forms such as chronic illness, debt, criminal conviction, and divorce. Addiction can lead to lives being shattered. It can break up families, and cause many other forms of unnecessary suffering.

Primarily the addictive behavior is a form of self soothing; A habit that provides some relief, albeit temporary, from deep seated emotional pain. Our brain and body produces dopamine which makes us feel excited, motivated or satisfied. 

Top Tips to fight Addiction

  1. Take responsibility. Realise that you own your problem and that you can get help if you choose to but you are the solely responsible for your health and healing.
  2. Realise that recovery and moving on isn’t always a straight forward process. Set backs happen, and that’s ok. You haven’t failed until you give up so keep moving forward. 
  3. Avoid triggers and situations which you know will be hard for you to avoid your addiction  .
  4. Find someone who you can trust to support you through your journey.
  5. Find a purpose .

How we can help you

Barbara Hay can help you overcome your addiction. Helping you to understand yourself and your beliefs will start the journey to transform your life and help you be free from your addiction. Addiction can be overcome without the need to be dependent on support groups.  Just because you have an addiction now, you don’t need to consider yourself an addict for life. Our approach is holistic and personalized, recognizing that each person’s journey to recovery is unique. Through a series of tailored sessions, we work together to break the cycle of addiction, focusing on building healthier habits, strengthening your resilience, and fostering a sense of hope and purpose. Whether you’re seeking to overcome a long-standing addiction or struggling with recent challenges, Barbara Hay Therapy is here to support you every step of the way. With the right guidance and commitment, you can move beyond addiction and toward a more fulfilling, balanced life.

 

Why not book a  FREE face to face half hour consultation to find out more.

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Anxieties

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Anxieties

Suffer from Anxiety? This can help.

anxieties

Are you experiencing one of the following symptoms?

  • Trouble sleeping
  • Feeling as though something awful is going to happen
  • Feeling ill at ease or on edge a lot of the time
  • Noticing physical symptoms such as churning stomach or breathing problems
  • Unable to focus or concentrate
  • Overthinking

Causes for anxiety

Stress and anxiety are emotionally distressing and can affect every area of your life. Life can become so distressing and every event can seem like a huge challenge. You may become withdrawn, your performance may suffer at work and socially. After a while many people develop chronic conditions such as headaches, insomnia, IBS, tinnitus,skin conditions and more.  The under lying causes for anxiety lie in your subconscious. Previous significant events and/or limiting beliefs learned during childhood are responsible for the way you feel. Social anxiety, Generalized anxiety, panic disorders all have roots in childhood experiences.   

Top Tips to fight Anxiety

  1. Deal with it, don’t keeping avoiding situations which trigger anxiety. As tough as that seems, avoidance will not get rid of the anxiety and may actually make it worse. 
  2. Question your thoughts. Often we catastrophise things in our heads before we even encounter them.  
  3. Use 7/11 breathing to calm yourself. This breathing technique will allow the Adrenalin and cortisol to dissipate and restore blood flow to your thinking brain (Pre Frontal cortex). 
  4. Plan. Planning ahead can ease the stress of having to cope ‘on the hoof’. 
  5. Book some sessions with one of our qualified therapists.

How we can help you

Our team of therapists can help you overcome your anxiety. Helping you to understand yourself and your beliefs will start the journey to transform your life and help you be free from your anxiety.  Different therapists have different approaches so it will be up to you who you want to work with and which approach would work best for you.

Most of our therapists offer a FREE face to face half hour consultation or a telephone consultation so you can choose who you want to work.

 

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Anger

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Anger

Suffering from anger? This can help.

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Are you experiencing one of the following symptoms?

  • Feeling irritable and short tempered
  • Flying into a rage, aggressive body language
  • Holding grudges
  • Constantly being late
  • Feeling and acting defensively
  • Unable to focus or concentrate
  • Feeling disconnected/distancing from others
  • Addicted to a self soothing habit such as alcohol, smoking, drinking, drug, gambling or comfort eating for example

There are many different causes for holding and or feeling anger

Anger is a healthy and purposeful emotion; it’s intention is to protect you, keep you safe. However, when anger rises in situations where you are not threatened, or there is no clear risk there will be an underlying cause. Anger will still be protecting you. Look at feelings underneath the anger and you will find a myriad of feelings which your anger is trying to hide, to protect you from realising and/or feeling. Feelings of not feeling worthy, feeling disrespected, not listened to, guilty, ashamed, fearful or that you don’t matter to others. These aren’t the only emotions, feelings and beliefs of course.  

Your subconsciously held limiting beliefs drive your feelings, attitude and behaviour without you consciously being aware of it. You may find you judge yourself telling yourself “this is  ridiculous”, ” there is something wrong with me” or “I don’t understand why I am like this”. You may be risking relationships, jobs, promotions or opportunities because your feelings and anger get the way.  

Top Tips to fight the anger feelings

  1. Breathe. The  7/11 breathing technique will allow the Adrenalin and cortisol to dissipate and restore blood flow to your thinking brain (Pre Frontal cortex).
  2. Realise that people are all fellow strugglers. While they seem to be selfish or inconsiderate this is often not the case. They have issues and problems too. 
  3. Keep a journal so you can identity patterns. Often anger is a result of built up stress and feeling overwhelmed. Keeping a journal can help you identify patterns so you can manage things better. 
  4. Exercise is an excellent way to promote dopamine and endorphins and regular exercise will help you feel less angry. 
  5. Book some sessions with a professional therapist.

How we can help you

We offer a range of proven therapeutic approaches, some of which will help you manage the anger, others will help you be rid of the underlying cause which means you will no longer feel anger inappropriately, and at times when anger is appropriate, it will be in the right proportion without resulting in rage. 

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Sexual Abuse

Sexual Abuse

Can‘t sleep at night? This can help.

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Are you experiencing one of the following symptoms?

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There are many different causes for sleepless nights

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Top Tips to fight Insomnia

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How we can help you

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PTSD

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PTSD

Are you suffering Trauma and PTSD? This can help.

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Are you experiencing any of the following symptoms?

  • Flashbacks
  • Anger, irritability, mood swings
  • Feeling disconnected or numb
  • Guilt, shame, self-blame
  • Withdrawing from others

Common causes for PTSD or Trauma

  • Car accidents, plane crashes, or other vehicular hazards or collisions.
  • Unexpected death of a loved one.
  • Sexual abuse.
  • Ongoing harassment.
  • Physical assault.
  • Emotional abuse.
  • Rape.
  • Childhood neglect.

Living with trauma or PTSD is hard and can have a huge impact on everyday life. Relationships, jobs, emotional health and physical health can all be adversely affected while your brain struggles to process the original trauma.  

Top Tips to help

  1. Identify the factors that help keep the PTSD going
  2. Bring yourself to the present.  Notice 5 things around you. What you see, what you  smell, what you hear, how your clothes feel on your body and stand up feel your feet on the ground.
  3. Practice 7\11 breathing to help you move from flight or fight to present
  4. Ask yourself 5 questions. Where am I, right now?  What day is it?  What year is it? How old am I? Where do I live? 

How we can help you

Unprocessed trauma can result in PTSD. Humans are endowed with an instinctual capacity to heal as well as an intellectual spirit to harness this innate capacity.  Therapeutic approaches can help your brain normalise the symptoms of trauma and help you heal them.

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Emotional Wellbeing

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Emotional Wellbeing

Feeling stuck, ill at ease or lacking energy or motivation? This can help.

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Are you experiencing one of the following symptoms?

  • Feeling as though life has llttle to offer but not sure how to change
  • Lacking motivation
  • Mind full of negative thoughts
  • Feeling disconnected, unfulfilled and disatisfied with life
  • Frustrated, low in mood

There are many different causes for disruption to your emotional well being

Feeling stuck, frustrated, lacking motivation or constantly worrying are just a few of the symptoms you can experience that lets you know that your emotional well being needs addressing. Struggling to understand your emotional needs can be very disturbing and frustrating. You may use distraction or denial to push the feelings and thoughts from your mind only to find they resurface time and again. Subconsciously held beliefs (‘I am not worthy’, ‘I am not lovable’, ‘I am a failure’, ‘I am not important’) are responsible for holding you back from living your life the way you want to; To have fulfilling relationships, enjoying your job, applying for the job you’d really love to do for example. 

 

Top Tips to fight disruption to your emotional well being

  1. Be aware that negative feelings and emotions all have a positive intention
  2. Notice feelings and emotions rather than the thoughts. Acknowledge these emotions rather than suppress them  
  3. Learn and use EFT techniques to help regulate or negate strong emotions  
  4. Exercise produces endorphins which minimises discomfort 
  5. Teach your brain to sleep well. Sleep is restorative for both the mind and the body  

How we can help you

We have several therapeutic approaches which help you to explore what limiting beliefs you hold and why you act and react in certain situations. Many of the therapeutic approaches make changes in brain (neuroscience) and can help you let go of the limiting beliefs permanently. This in turn can change negative behaviours and habits helping you to be the best version of yourself.

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Stress

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Stress

Feeling stressed? This can help.

stress

Are you experiencing one of the following symptoms?

  • Mood swings
  • Anger
  • Feeling overwhelmed
  • Poor memory and/or poor concentration
  • Tense muscles

There are many different causes for stress

Stress is difficult to avoid completely; in small doses stress can be beneficial, for example helping to be motivated to get a job done. However a constant source of stress can be debilitating and lead to emotional, mental and physical problems.  Because people experience stress for different reasons, not everyone experiences every type of stress symptom. For example, while one person may only experience emotional stress symptoms, someone else may experience more severe stress that can cause additional types of symptoms.

Our wide range of therapies can help you relieve or eradicate stress. Whether you choose a relaxing Massage to ease muscle tension, Reflexology or Reiki for relaxation or Counselling or Hypnotherapy to get to the source of the problem and start to change your life we can help you.

Top Tips to fight Stress

  1. Make time for self care
  2. Recognise your triggers
  3. Avoid self soothing habits such as alcohol, drugs, gambling and shopping  which cause further problems 
  4. Realise that you don’t have to be responsible for other people’s responsibilities. Take a step back if there’s too much going on 
  5. Talk to someone you trust

How we can help you

Decide how you want to manage the stress in your life.  Do you want to work on your emotional responses to stress triggers? Do you believe at some level you find things stressful when others don’t? Then we can help you using approaches such as coaching, counselling , EFT or CBT. 

If you feel that a holistic approach may work for you then it’s a question of you giving your self some time for self care. Regular treatments can relieve you of those stressful feelings both in the body and the mind and provide a much needed top up of positivity, de -stress and relief.    

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Depression

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Depression

Suffering from Depression? This can help.

depression

Are you experiencing one of the following symptoms?

  • Feeling helpless and hopeless
  • Lacking in energy
  • Lacking motivation to engage in activities which you used to enjoy
  • Feeling angry and/or irritated a lot of the time
  • Trouble concentrating or focusing

There are many different causes for depression

Depression symptoms vary from person to person. It’s important to realise that everyone will feel down or depressed from time to time; it’s a part of normal life flow. However if you find you’re experiencing  feelings and emotions such as hopelessness, despair or lack of motivation that just won’t go away, you  may have depression. Depression can be mild, moderate or severe. Life changing circumstances (divorce, relationship breakdown, job loss or financial difficulties can bring an onset of depression. Childhood trauma, Traumatic events, chronic illness and unexpected life changes can also bring on depression. 

Feeling isolated, not understood and lonely (even if you have people in your life) is linked to depression. This is a key element for most people and is far more contributory that most people recognise. 

Top Tips to fight Depression

  1. Avoid alcohol as much as possible. Alcohol can make you more depressed.
  2. Exercise can help. Exercise releases feel good chemicals in our brain and body. Even a 20 minute walk can lift your mood.  
  3. Make positive connections. One of the key contributors to depression is isolation. Connecting with the right people can make all the difference to your emotional well being. 
  4. It is really important to look after yourself, even more so when you are depressed. Self care can take different forms such as eating well, getting a good nights sleep, exercising, time to enjoy a hobby or interest and of course booking a massage or another type of therapy session.   
  5. There are several evidenced based approaches that can help you be rid of or manage your depression. Book a free consultation with us to find our more.  

How we can help you

We have several therapeutic approaches which help you to explore what limiting beliefs you hold and why you act and react in certain situations. Many of the therapeutic approaches make changes in brain (neuroscience) and can help you let go of the limiting beliefs permanently. This in turn can change negative behaviours and habits helping you to be the best version of yourself

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Contact us now for a free and friendly first consultation.

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Allergies

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Allergies

Do you have an allergy? This can help.

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Are you experiencing one of the following symptoms?

  • Digestion problems
  • Skin disorders
  • Headaches
  • Itchy skin or eyes
  • Sneezing and runny nose

There are many different causes for allergic reactions

Allergies are the result of an inappropriate immune response to a normally harmless substance. Some of the most common allergens are dust, pollen, and nuts. They can cause sneezing, peeling skin, and vomiting.

The tenancy to develop allergies can be hereditary but not always. Allergies can manifest at a time where your immune system is struggling to keep you safe, for example after an illness, during pregnancy, from a trauma or stressful periods in your life.  

Top Tips to fight Allergic Reactions

  1. Keep a diary. Note your diet, your stresses and your symptoms. Discover your triggers.
  2. Avoid your triggers once you realise what they are.
  3.  Take responsibility for your health, look for solutions that will work for you.
  4.  A healthy diet will boost your immune system; make you sure you eat 5 portions of veg and fruit a day and drink plenty of water.

How we can help you

Allergies manifest in different ways and can be noticed by a range of different physical reactions from sneezing through to asthma.  If you suspect you have a food allergy begin by booking a test. Our holistic nutritionist will give you your results within an hour and will support you further to  help you make changes to your dietary intake  in order to make permanent changes and feel healthy. 

For other types of allergies Reflexology can provide instant relief and continued support can boost your immune system which will then work effectively. Reflexology treatments promote self-healing powers of the body, strengthen the body’s immune system and support the functions of the liver, kidneys and bowel. Reflexology clients with allergies, often show imbalances in the digestive system, endocrine system, respiratory system including lungs, sinus passages, ears, nose, throat and eyes, and parasympathetic nervous system. Treating these affected areas provide balance to the whole body and improve the natural functions such as breathing, digestion and circulation.

The lymphatic treatment of the foot plays an important role in the treatment of allergic clients. Those treatments help to promote the lymphatic flow necessary for toxin removal. This way, it helps the cleansing procedure of the body. Besides relieving the symptoms of the allergy, Reflexology also reduces the sensitivity to allergens such as pollen or weeds.

It is important to recognise the significance of the mind body connection. Stress and trauma will affect our bodies. There has been a great deal of research over the past decade or so which conclusively shows our body literally keeps the score. Allergies and Asthma are linked to childhood insecurities, stress and trauma. By working to process these stresses and traumas so they are no longer affect us, the body and mind can return to its natural emotional state which  in turn strengthens the immune system which means the body will no longer adversely react to environmental triggers.  

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