Weight loss

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Weight loss

Can‘t seem to lose weight? This can help.

weight-loss

Are you experiencing one of the following symptoms?

There are different reasons for being over weight

Struggling to lose weight? Cant seem to stick to a healthy eating regime? You probably know what to do to lose weight but something is stopping you from either moving towards to your goal or sticking with your plan to lose weight. Nowadays there is so much information and education about healthy eating, calories, carbs, exercise etc. It’s not that we don’t what we should do to eat healthily and lose weight. It’s more about the subconscious drive to comfort eat. Feeling not good enough, overwhelmed, fearful, lonely or anxious are just a few of the powerful emotions which drive us to self sooth.  Food can help us feel better almost immediately. We get a huge dopamine hit but it’s short lived an temporary. So we self sooth more and more often to feel better. Sometimes we aren’t aware consciously what we are feeling deep down. 

Top Tips to fight comfort eating

  1. Recognise the triggers. Keep a dairy to help you understand what is happening when you need to eat.
  2. Find an alternative way to met your emotional needs. 
  3. Treat yourself in ways that doesn’t involve food. A new book, a candle lit bath or  a nice walk.
  4. Practice sitting with uncomfortable emotions. Acknowledge them instead of distracting or dismissing.
  5. Book some sessions with one of our qualified and experienced therapists. 

How we can help you

We can help you. We have several therapists who can help you. Using Hypnotherapy, NLP, EFT, CBT or the Freedom2 weight loss program our experienced and qualified therapists can help you uncover the mental blocks which are preventing you from being the person you want to be, remove the limiting beliefs you have deep inside and change the negative patterns which hold you back from living your life how you want to.

Unsure what‘s the best solution for you?

Contact us now for a free and friendly first consultation.

Confidence & Self-Esteem

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Confidence & Self-Esteem

Low self esteem? Lacking in confidence? This can help.

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Are you experiencing one of the following symptoms?

There are many different reasons for low self esteem and/or lack of confidence

Real Self Confidence and Esteem is based in emotion, not a self image.
To build self confidence and overcome low self esteem is to change how we feel emotionally about ourselves. To change our emotion requires changing two different core beliefs about self image. The first core belief is obvious. It is the belief that we are not good enough. It may have a more specific association to how we look, how smart we are, money, or lack of confidence sexually. The second core belief to change is the image of success that we feel we should be. Changing this belief is contrary to logic, but is a must if we are to overcome insecurity and raise our self esteem.

You would be amazed at the number of people that have a problem with low self-esteem or a lack of confidence. However, just imagine how it would be to live your life feeling confident in who you are and in your abilities.  Just think of all the things you could achieve if you had that self-esteem and felt as confident as you imagine other people to feel. 

Top Tips to fight lack of confidence and self esteem

  1. Challenge your limiting beliefs .
  2. Do things that take you outside your comfort zone
  3. Surround yourself with positive people.
  4. Stop putting yourself down.
  5. Heal your past, book some sessions with one of our skilled therapists.

How we can help you

Dealing with confidence and self-esteem issues allows you to become the person you want to be. We can help guide you towards solutions that will allow you to take control, replacing old negative feelings and patterns of behaviour and taking you towards the new, positive, confident you.

We can give you back your control over your habits, your frustrations, and your self-denial  and basically over your life.
Improving your low self-esteem is essential for your self development and to face the challenges in your every day life.

Unsure what‘s the best solution for you?

Contact us now for a free and friendly first consultation.

Feeling stuck & unfulfilled

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Feeling stuck & unfulfilled

Feeling stuck? This can help.

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Are you experiencing one of the following symptoms?

There are many different reasons for feeling stuck

It is useful to consider what may be holding you back from taking opportunities. Is is fear? Fear of failure? Fear of succeeding? Fear of loss perhaps? Is it that your are with the wrong tribe? People you may like but do not inspire you, share your interests, challenge you and admire you. 

Maybe your boring unfulfilling job is safe because you know it inside out and changing jobs may feel scary. Maybe your calling is something more creative but you’ve been held back by others’ believes about a ‘proper job’. Perhaps you’ve settled for a mediocre but safe relationship, feeling like you don’t deserve any better. 

In whatever way you feel stuck, unfulfilled or bored it will be perception. Your perception. But ask yourself why this is.  As suggested it is about fear. Our mind doesn’t like change especially if change involves the unfamiliar. Uncertainty feels scary, uncomfortable and stressful. So staying stuck, although unfulfilling, feels the safer option.

Top Tips to fight being stuck

  1. Look for a change of environment.
  2. Try a few new activities; don’t settle on any one until you feel excited and challenged.  
  3. Get out and meet new people. The more you meet the more opportunities will come your way.
  4. Accept you are stuck. Take responsibility for you. Know that you need to make changes. Don’t run away however. Move on. Grow.
  5. Book some sessions with one of our experienced therapists.

How we can help you

We can help you to over come issues which are holding you back and will help you to become the person you want to be and live the life you want to. We can help guide you towards solutions that will allow you to take control, replacing old negative feelings and patterns of behaviour and taking you towards the new, positive, confident you.

We can give you back your control over your habits, your frustrations, and your self-denial  and basically over your life.

Unsure what‘s the best solution for you?

Contact us now for a free and friendly first consultation.

Fears & Phobias

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Fears & Phobias

Suffer from a phobia or fears? We can help.

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Are you experiencing one of the following symptoms?

There are many different causes for a subconsciously held fear or phobia

any of us have fears about particular objects or situations, and this is perfectly normal. A fear becomes a phobia if it lasts for more than six months, and has a significant impact on how you live your day-to-day life.

 

Top Tips to fight fears and panic

  1. 7/11 breathing 
  2. Practice stress reduction techniques, such as mindfulness meditation or aerobic exercise.
  3. Get into a good position. Take a deep breath and sigh it out, get in touch with your breathing. Close your eyes and find the place in your body where you feel your breath most prominently. Detach from your thoughts
  4. Book some sessions with an experienced therapist.

How we can help you

If you are suffering from a phobia or fear that is ruining your life, preventing you  from enjoying your life to its fullest give us a call and find out how we can help you to regain control of your emotions and free yourself of life restricting phobias.  

Phobias can be so powerful, they can create some very scary emotions, thoughts and feelings. The mind and body connection is so strong that your mind will create unpleasant physical feelings such as sweaty palms, breathlessness, stomach pains, nausea and feeling faint.

You don’t have to live with dread; you can live your life as you were meant to without these fears you weren’t born with them, you have acquired them through time and therapy can easily help you be rid of them.  We use a range of techniques when treating phobias and  usually combine two or more techniques to attain maximum success, leaving you permanently free of your phobia.

Unsure what‘s the best solution for you?

Contact us now for a free and friendly first consultation.

Addictions

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Addictions

Addictive behaviour? This can help.

addictions

Are you experiencing one of the following symptoms?

There could be different causes for an addiction

Addiction is defined as not having control over doing, taking or using something to the point where it could be harmful to you. This could be computer games, sex, drugs, alcohol, self harming, smoking,  gambling, food…the list could go on.

Addiction causes a lot of suffering. Not only for the person who is addicted but the people they share their lives with also. This suffering can take many
forms such as chronic illness, debt, criminal conviction, and divorce. Addiction can lead to lives being shattered. It can break up families, and cause many other forms of unnecessary suffering.

Primarily the addictive behavior is a form of self soothing; A habit that provides some relief, albeit temporary, from deep seated emotional pain. Our brain and body produces dopamine which makes us feel excited, motivated or satisfied. 

Top Tips to fight Addiction

  1. Take responsibility. Realise that you own your problem and that you can get help if you choose to but you are the solely responsible for your health and healing.
  2. Realise that recovery and moving on isn’t always a straight forward process. Set backs happen, and that’s ok. You haven’t failed until you give up so keep moving forward. 
  3. Avoid triggers and situations which you know will be hard for you to avoid your addiction  .
  4. Find someone who you can trust to support you through your journey.
  5. Find a purpose .

How we can help you

Barbara Hay can help you overcome your addiction. Helping you to understand yourself and your beliefs will start the journey to transform your life and help you be free from your addiction. Addiction can be overcome without the need to be dependent on support groups.  Just because you have an addiction now, you don’t need to consider yourself an addict for life. Our approach is holistic and personalized, recognizing that each person’s journey to recovery is unique. Through a series of tailored sessions, we work together to break the cycle of addiction, focusing on building healthier habits, strengthening your resilience, and fostering a sense of hope and purpose. Whether you’re seeking to overcome a long-standing addiction or struggling with recent challenges, Barbara Hay Therapy is here to support you every step of the way. With the right guidance and commitment, you can move beyond addiction and toward a more fulfilling, balanced life.

 

Why not book a  FREE face to face half hour consultation to find out more.

Unsure what‘s the best solution for you?

Contact us now for a free and friendly first consultation.

Anxieties

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Anxieties

Suffer from Anxiety? This can help.

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Are you experiencing one of the following symptoms?

Causes for anxiety

Stress and anxiety are emotionally distressing and can affect every area of your life. Life can become so distressing and every event can seem like a huge challenge. You may become withdrawn, your performance may suffer at work and socially. After a while many people develop chronic conditions such as headaches, insomnia, IBS, tinnitus,skin conditions and more.  The under lying causes for anxiety lie in your subconscious. Previous significant events and/or limiting beliefs learned during childhood are responsible for the way you feel. Social anxiety, Generalized anxiety, panic disorders all have roots in childhood experiences.   

Top Tips to fight Anxiety

  1. Deal with it, don’t keeping avoiding situations which trigger anxiety. As tough as that seems, avoidance will not get rid of the anxiety and may actually make it worse. 
  2. Question your thoughts. Often we catastrophise things in our heads before we even encounter them.  
  3. Use 7/11 breathing to calm yourself. This breathing technique will allow the Adrenalin and cortisol to dissipate and restore blood flow to your thinking brain (Pre Frontal cortex). 
  4. Plan. Planning ahead can ease the stress of having to cope ‘on the hoof’. 
  5. Book some sessions with one of our qualified therapists.

How we can help you

Our team of therapists can help you overcome your anxiety. Helping you to understand yourself and your beliefs will start the journey to transform your life and help you be free from your anxiety.  Different therapists have different approaches so it will be up to you who you want to work with and which approach would work best for you.

Most of our therapists offer a FREE face to face half hour consultation or a telephone consultation so you can choose who you want to work.

 

Unsure what‘s the best solution for you?

Contact us now for a free and friendly first consultation.

Anger

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Anger

Suffering from anger? This can help.

anger-management

Are you experiencing one of the following symptoms?

There are many different causes for holding and or feeling anger

Anger is a healthy and purposeful emotion; it’s intention is to protect you, keep you safe. However, when anger rises in situations where you are not threatened, or there is no clear risk there will be an underlying cause. Anger will still be protecting you. Look at feelings underneath the anger and you will find a myriad of feelings which your anger is trying to hide, to protect you from realising and/or feeling. Feelings of not feeling worthy, feeling disrespected, not listened to, guilty, ashamed, fearful or that you don’t matter to others. These aren’t the only emotions, feelings and beliefs of course.  

Your subconsciously held limiting beliefs drive your feelings, attitude and behaviour without you consciously being aware of it. You may find you judge yourself telling yourself “this is  ridiculous”, ” there is something wrong with me” or “I don’t understand why I am like this”. You may be risking relationships, jobs, promotions or opportunities because your feelings and anger get the way.  

Top Tips to fight the anger feelings

  1. Breathe. The  7/11 breathing technique will allow the Adrenalin and cortisol to dissipate and restore blood flow to your thinking brain (Pre Frontal cortex).
  2. Realise that people are all fellow strugglers. While they seem to be selfish or inconsiderate this is often not the case. They have issues and problems too. 
  3. Keep a journal so you can identity patterns. Often anger is a result of built up stress and feeling overwhelmed. Keeping a journal can help you identify patterns so you can manage things better. 
  4. Exercise is an excellent way to promote dopamine and endorphins and regular exercise will help you feel less angry. 
  5. Book some sessions with a professional therapist.

How we can help you

We offer a range of proven therapeutic approaches, some of which will help you manage the anger, others will help you be rid of the underlying cause which means you will no longer feel anger inappropriately, and at times when anger is appropriate, it will be in the right proportion without resulting in rage. 

Unsure what‘s the best solution for you?

Contact us now for a free and friendly first consultation.