Raising a child
Does your child show signs of emotional disregulation? This can help.
Is your child experiencing one of the following symptoms?
There are many different causes for emotional disregulation in childhood
Our childhood mind operates very differently from our adult mind especially the first 7 years. The neo cortex and pre frontal cortex (thinking, reasoning, logic and language) grow rapidly from birth but our brain will not fully develop until we are in our mid twenties. This means that we operate mainly on our limbic system (our emotional brain) in our formative years. Consequently we can misinterpret or not understand the messages we receive from the events we experience. When this happens we experience fear and insecurity. This leads to beliefs and subsequent behaviour in order to try to feel safe. Experiences and events need not be big T traumas to have a negative effect on us. Experiences such as not feeling accepted by our peers, not being understood by parents and teachers or feeling anxious when separated from a parent are all traumas for our child brain. When we don’t understand and cannot express our feelings we act out in order to seek connection, security and love.
Top Tips to help your child
- Parent in an emotionally coaching style rather than an an emotionally dismissive way.
- Do not dismiss your child’s feelings. Instead acknowledge and comfort.
- Discipline not punishment. Put in boundaries and maintain the boundaries with kind assertiveness .
- Attune to your child needs.
- Routine is a way to help your child feel secure. Especially a regular bedtime routine of bath, bed and book at around the same time every night.
How we can help your child
Recent research shows how we can not only help a child’s brain cognitively develop but also how we can influence that development. The way we communicate with our children has a profound impact on how they develop, the opinion of themselves in this world, how they interact with others and how ultimately, what they learn in their in their early years, creates the adults they become.
Counselling young people:
- Helps establish trust and understanding with a child.
- Encourages the child to tell their story, in a confidential and safe environment.
- Allows the young person to express him/herself, and to explore feelings and thoughts.
- Enables the child to make informed choices.
- Helps the young person develop a positive attitude.
- Helps the young person develop and build confidence and self-esteem.
EFT / Emotional Freedom Technique
Kids run through emotions quickly and often have fears that an adult can’t understand and therefore cannot help children to deal with effectively.
The idea of being frightened of something living in the closet seems absurd to most adults, yet this is one of the most common fears of a child. Tapping is a easy and effective way to help children of all ages manage their feelings and fears.
- Can significantly reduce exam and test nerves
- Helps end childrens’ negative beliefs about themselves
- Increases childrens’ confidence
- Gets rid of phobias
- Children often find EFT (tapping) sessions to be fun
- For children who are living with chronic pain or chronic disease, EFT is very gentle and helpful.
NLP – Neuro Linguistic Programming
NLP will help children/teenagers understand their problems, transform them and move them on pass them.We all make maps inside our brain, how we use those maps to make sense of life and in turn communicate those maps with others, influences our behaviour. Using an NLP skill set, children can be taught how to change their maps, so they can gain confidence, or motivation, or overcome their fears. Properly taught, NLP is fast and profoundly powerful.
Children are great to work with in Hypnotherapy because their minds are more open to change and their imaginations are usually very active. Hypnotherapy can help many issues such as
- Improved exam confidence
- Improved memory/learning
- Thumb sucking/nail biting
- Low self-esteem
- Dealing with stress or worry
Our parent’s workshop programme is packed with techniques and strategies which will help you to deal with and/or avoid tantrums, meltdowns and tears. In addition, you will learn how to teach your child to build and grow confidence and resilience. Based on the latest scientific research in how our minds work using proven strategies from the Interpersonal Neurobiology approach.
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